Wtf

I’ve been dating a girl for only since June / July. Her dad died, but I met her mom who’s been giving me updates about the house.

My girl has an older sister. I was in the middle of talking to the mom when the sister popped up. She asked me if I was staying over and all she said was, “oh okay. Could you guys try to keep it down because I’m going to be staying in the next room” and I just nodded. (The house is under construction so everyone is getting moved around).

Tonight, I witnessed my girl and her sister get into an actual argument right in front of me.
And watching them and hearing the older sister talk made me think…

She was actually being pretty reasonable. She was upset because her sister and I were moving stuff into the room next to her and this was the third night in a row we did it around midnight. My girl told me it was okay because she thought her sister wasn’t home because she didn’t see her.
It turns out that after the first time we did that, her sister had been staying out to give us more time to move stuff, but was tapping out by midnight because she has work the next mornings.
So tonight she closed the door into the hallway and my girl freaked out.

I told the sister we didn’t meant to keep her up and she told me calmly that she knows we weren't being malicious but she needs us to be more considerate because we know she lives in the next room and she needs to sleep and that midnight is too late for her already.
She even explained that she was once in my girl’s position when she first moved downstairs and their older brother still lived at home. She told me that she never moved anything down during nighttime because she knew her brother needed to sleep and she didn’t even want to put him in a position where he would have to ask her to be quiet.

And I got it.
I thought her sister was being pretty reasonable.

What’s fucking me up is my girl. She was actually the immature one. I watched her freak out, speak over her sister who was literally talking in the same volume the whole time, ignore her sister’s request to just be more considerate, and completely miss the points her sister made.

I thought I was tripping when I felt a certain way about things she says to me, but seeing her talk the way she did to her sister gave me a lot to think about.

We got into a fight last month and she cried that I was being too logical and then asked me to just ignore logic for a while and just validate her feelings.
I didn’t agree with that, but her friends convinced me to just talk it out with her. We did and she did apologize so I forgave her.

But now I’m starting to second guess things.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking things?

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Houston Other November 05, 2026 at 6:44 am 0 0