quot Why not You re not doing anything quot

Don't you just love when you decline to do something that you really don't have any obligation to do, people whine and get defensive? Especially ones that know your habits?
Yes, I am not doing anything or have any plans put in place. That's the point. That way, if I spontaneously want to do something, I can do it. I often break plans I make that aren't essential so I go about it this way. It's easier for me.
Just because you see it as unproductive does not mean I have to do what you want. Stop assuming that when I'm 'not doing anything', I'm at your beck and call. I'm not. "Why not? You're not doing anything" is a good way to get a perma-NO each time.
No, I don't have to:
-Come in on my day off cuz you want to leave early.
-Watch your kids (for free, mind you) so you can go get nonsensical or nonessential things done or something you need to hire a babysitter for. I don't have kids for a reason (I can barely take care of myself, what makes anyone think I can have kids of my own?). I'm not taking on yours, especially for free. It also depends on the kid if you're willing to pay me but the answer is still most likely no when it comes to kids.
-Cook something that will take a bit of time and prep to make, that I won't even get to enjoy because you want to impress certain people. Learn how to cook. There are Youtube channels for that.
-and a plethora of other things that you're just going to have to deal with.
If I know you're willing to do the same for me, are in an extremely tight position, or you're someone really close to me who I don't mind spending time on, I'll consider it.
However, I've already been burned by others I thought would do the same which ruined it for everyone else. I can't tell you how many 'emergencies' I had to go rushing in for only to find out it was because someone didn't want to do what they were supposed to do/wanted to do something they should have planned for ahead of time. I don't trust easily anymore. I used to rush to help people at the drop of a hat but now, it really depends on the person and the situation.
Though, a good way to go about this is to have me owe you a favor first (it's rare but it does happen) and I'll return it at the first chance I can. I don't like having debts so I try to not need favors from others and have my ducks in a row. I am the type that will probably suffer quietly instead of asking for help in all honesty.

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I'm busy doing nothing. Relationships July 09, 2020 at 11:28 pm 0 0