What’s the point of asking?

I just spent 8 hours cleaning out the house of old junk and old stuff we no longer use. Most of the stuff being throw out is my own personal items . Few things to point out is that…

1. I did not touch anything of his items of important or anything in his office or any of his personal items such as clothes and gaming equipment.
2. My boyfriend hates expired food or sauces in the kitchen

So apparently he has a special steak knife that is very old that I didn’t know was important to him which I was going to throw away. He claims he told me about it before which I don’t recall . He then has a go at me and puts an extra caveat on that he wants it to be used like any other knife. How the fuck was I supposed to know it was that important? If it was that important it shouldn’t be used as a normal every day knife and kept with all the other knifes. It’s not like all the other important items I didn’t touch because I knew they were important and they are separated because of how important they are. Why didn’t he do that with this knife?


I wouldn’t have touched it if I knew it was that important. I don’t even get a thank you for cleaning out the house and dealing with the over 2 month expired items which let’s be real he wasn’t going to deal with for another 6 months or to be frank, would he have dealt with them at all?

He then adds the extra caveat that he gets shameful feelings when he notices I have clean out items that have expired because he gets sad he didn’t get round to using those items. He can’t seem to make up his mind and gets too sentimentally attached to the most pointless things like expired pears in vinegar. If it wasn’t for me this house would be filled with old bullshit .

He has emails dated back to 2005. I understand if those emails were of family memories but they aren’t. They just old bullshit thank you for your order emails from Amazon or eBay .


Starting to think I don’t want to be with someone who is so stuck in the past all the time and that it takes me pushing him or asking for each and everything thing for him to move on or to throw away . It’s fucking exhausting just to want to have a house where every item is actually useful or important and not just sitting there for no good reason. I have the extra pressure of asking him or informing him of every item either removed or rearranged.

Also all the DIY is mostly done by me . I painted all the rooms in the house. I have done all the cat litters for the last 6 months barring 2 times. I cut the garden front and back. I arranged for picked of heavy items. I took unwanted toiletries to donations. Built most of our garden furniture. Yet he can’t even get our boiler service booked.

It took months to get the car washed . He just so fucking lazy. I’m so fucking tired all the time and he snoring is so loud and he won’t lose weight and I just feel like I don’t feel the spark I and at the start of the relationship anymore.

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anonymous Relationships July 14, 2025 at 7:25 pm 0 0