Are they emotionally impaired? I was diagnosed as emotionally impaired in elementary school and I do that. I'm bad at conveying emotion until my body forces it. Calling an insult a joke can catch people off guard, and if you're also used to them ignoring you once it hits them what you really said they start listening a little more.

NGL, if they're as fucked up as I am I'd just move on. You ain't getting through someone like me. Could try talking to them otherwise. I'm pretty damn FUBAR.

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anonymous 2 hours ago

Also, if they are emotionally impaired like me your jokes or demeanor might be hurting their feelings and offensive jokes may be their way of communicating that uncomfortable point. It can be hard to say stuff like that, and sometimes it feels way more effective to show people how they're treating you as opposed to just using words. Words are powerful until they aren't, but actions always carry a lot of weight.

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anonymous 2 hours ago

Like you use 'classmate' and 'friend' fairly interchangeably. Do they know that you two are friends? Why is it an emoji that makes a joke, a joke? I've never cared for how some people split hairs over semantics, but what's the point here? If I say whatever I like but add an emoji it's a joke? If that's the case then I refer to what I said earlier about you likely offending them with your jokes, and them using offensive jokes as a way of saying they're hurt.

Maybe you shouldn't move on if you're serious. Maybe you should talk to them instead. I guess it depends on how much YOU care.

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anonymous 2 hours ago

At the point the laughing is mostly just a way of getting emotion out of my system too. Kinda like crying, but not as extreme. What are you gonna do? Help me solve all my permanent problems permanently by killing me? Otherwise nothing. Wishing, praying, and similar shit doesn't do shit as far as I'm concerned.

A radio host once summarized my anxiety well: When people say "I'm never talking to you again" they're doing me a favor cause I don't really wanna talk to them anyway. They just don't see how much work it is because I'm emotionally impaired. I also don't communicate it well, because emotional impairment. So if they are like me... There's that aspect too.

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anonymous 2 hours ago

The more I think about this the more I feel like you managed to cover every aspect of Reddit's "just get therapy bro" philosophy or approach in a single post. People will talk about how laughter is a coping mechanism, and completely miss when someone is using it as a coping mechanism. They'll tell you to get therapy from licensed professionals, completely missing what the "L" in LMSW and LPC mean. They'll talk about being aware about mental illness, but in the moment that it's showing itself they're completely unaware. They talk about grace and patience, but can't have that grace or patience needed to let someone work through their problems. Nor can they hear others out so they possibly mirror your behavior instead. And then you get that jackass who earlier was talking about "real anxiety" like they know a damn thing.

Some people in this space think they're helping people by showing how they overcame their lowest points in life. Shits why I ever make it big enough that people care what I think I'm going to draw a hard boundary here. We talk about what I'm doing and if mental illness comes up at all I'm bouncing. I totally expect to be dead before that day comes, but whatever.

Glad you gave me a chance to really get it out on a platform where I can't be downvoted into oblivion because I didn't communicate things in a way the hivemind likes or communicated things the hivemind doesn't like at all.

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anonymous 1 hour ago