My father always yells at me

Let me start off by saying that my father isn't the worst, he would never hurt me, he's funny, we can usually talk normally, I don't hate him, he's caring, etc. But sometimes something in him just snaps and he starts yelling at me, getting mad over something small. My father didn't have a good childhood due to his father and he has some sort of ptsd.

Today, I went to the dentist, and my father was driving me. On the way back he, out of nowhere, turned the music up higher than normal. (My father has bad hearing, he's not deaf but he did recently get hearing aids). The music was too loud for me, and it was very uncomfortable, so I told him and he totally ignored me. So, I turned it down myself. And then he just got mad. He started yelling at me, saying I'm selfish and don't care about others, he says I'm rude, etc. I hate this, and the last two years or so I just started fighting back. I don't yell (at first), I usually try to stay calm and explain my side of things but that usually pisses him off even more. So, then I usually just give back what he gives me. I call him selfish, say that he doesn't care about others (which I probably shouldn't have said, but he started so sometimes I just don't care). And he just doesn't stop.

It's so tiring, and sometimes he does apologise, but he doesn't stop and it'll just happen again next week. I don't know what to do, because everything I do just makes it worse. I can do something one time and we're laughing about it, but if I do the exact same thing a day later he gets angry over it.

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Ash Home February 27, 2026 at 6:29 am 0 0