I made a mistake

Dating my boyfriend is killing me .

He says I'm rude, childish and naïve when it comes to relationships. I have had 3 relationships in the past before him. He uses my autism against me when I say this is the second time I have said I am very unhappy in the relationship. Expressed my thoughts and feelings calmly only to be told I am wrong. And that's not how it is.

5k in credit card debt and this man still wants me to buy things we can't afford like new clothes for myself all under the pretence of "making me feel more comfortable in my own skin" and to "stop hiding or using clothes as a form of protection". I don't know how many times I can say no to this man. It's irresponsible to buy new clothes when we are very much broke. I feel like I am going mad.

You wouldn't make the debt worse by adding to it? So why is trying to make it worse?

You wouldn't buy a brand new car or new high heels if your water bill needs paying first. He is only earning $50,000 a year and I'm looking for a full time job, we do not have the luxury of new clothes even if they are for a good reason.

Please tell me I am wrong?

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anonymous Relationships September 20, 2026 at 9:25 am 0 1