Why is there no humor in this relationship anymore

Used to be we joked and laughed about stuff all the time. Mind you I am not into any kind of cruel or gross humor to begin, just ridiculous how-did-you-even-think-of-that kind of stuff. If anything their humor was a little more questionable at times.

Now all of a sudden they're really into "boundaries." Boundaries are good and needed things when they're sane, but these are not sane boundaries. They're sarcasm quotes "boundaries." Random ass goofy shit that doesn't hurt or degrade anybody or anything and which we've joked about for years without a problem is suddenly against their "boundaries."

You can decide what does and doesn't work for you, and that can change, but you have to also understand that if you're suddenly setting all these "boundaries," you may be keeping out more than you bargained for. Like the fun of being around another person, which is the only real reason for me to be in a relationship anyway. I didn't pick them because I needed anything from them, I picked them because I loved being with them. When suddenly there's this big shift where innocent silliness is a problem, it takes away from that, and I have to ask myself why I bother. Life is hard and fucking stupid. If I can't laugh I might as well just dig a grave and jump in.

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anonymous Relationships January 15, 2026 at 2:32 pm 0 1