the thing i hated most about my ex

Was their lack of follow through. We went out for close to a year. Met at a singles event, aka jackass festival. I met someone who in hindsight didn't care about bettering themselves or their life, who pretty much thought a relationship was going to somehow provide the excitement and depth that they couldn't even attempt to capture for themselves.

I would attempt to talk to them about life shit and since they were not motivated, the conversation would fall short. You can't be a team and push each other to greater heightes or talk about achieving dreams or anything when you don't have any.

I would recommend shows and movies. Never watched them, and I eventually gave up on telling them of any,

I'd come up with date ideas, they wouldn't. I'd try to make myself look good, guess who never did. I eventually got pissed off at how I was the only one doing any of the work. And if you want to get cheeky and talk about "doing the work" fucking was not fun. Any kind of affection was kind of just like them faking emotion for like a second and then like with everything else, it'd be me having to pull the weight.

Like I came from a very difficult background. One where I was never expected to succeed. I spent fucking years fighting an uphill battle that I was never supposed to make it past, all to make it out of the fire and flames. You think I didn't feel depressed and hopeless and all of this shit? I felt it every day, but couldn't fail and had to pick myself up, no matter how bad I felt or what was going on. I say all of this because I don't think they came from that background thank God, and if they didn't, there really isn't any excuse besides laziness for why they were always so unmotived.

Don't date people like this. Also, I'd say any sort of singles event, dating app, speed dating, lonely hearts bullshit is really never bound to work out for anyone. You might have one descent, functional, non-snob, who doesn't have a substance issue and/or a million kids for like every 100 degenerate loser, but even then it's probably not someone you'd really want anything to do with.

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anonymous Relationships March 12, 2026 at 2:26 pm 0 0