My Mom seems to be kinda hypocritical at time

My Mom is fully willing to accept that sometimes she's just not in the mood for something, and even if the rest of us are looking forward to it because she doesn't want to do it we're not doing it because we need to not be selfish and think of others. However when me or my sister are just really not in the right mindset to lets say go out to eat she'll again complain about selfishness and thinking about what others want. But why is it in both scenarios she's the one being targeted and hurt? Why is she allowed to just decide she doesn't wanna do something as we're getting ready but we aren't? Our mental health isn't less important than hers. And i feel bad complaining because she did grow up in a terrible abusive and neglectful household but i just fell as if she hasn't broken the cycle and does manage to reflect behaviors of her mother. Another thing she does is complain about me being late for stuff but she's worse than i am! I have terrible insomnia and anxiety that prevents me from even being willing to fall asleep before midnight and because of this i cannot physically bring myself to wake up before 7 most days which tends to make me arrive to school late but other than that if there's a specific time set i can meet it, but she'll spend an hour after we were meant to leave getting ready having made us late to so many things, including a wedding where we missed practically everything and i was ready half an hour before we were meant to leave. Why does she get mad at me for being late to stuff but allow herself to show up whenever she wants and not allow me to also point that out??? I love my mom but it all just feels so hypocritical and she refuses to acknowledge that.

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anonymous Home December 21, 2025 at 6:10 pm 2 0