my mom's way of loving me

sometimes my mom wants to hang out with me like eat lunch outside together or do something fun or online shop together and it's really fun, i enjoy hanging out with her. but whenever i seek her out, like to confide in her about something that's been bothering me or to ask about something i want her opinion on, she sort of shuns me? like she just cant be bothered to care about whatever im saying because it doesnt affect her.

i know my dad has always been the empathetic one of the two of them but he was away on a business trip recently and something really shitty happened to me that made me feel cheated , so i went to talk to her about it and she just immediately dismissed everything i was trying to tell her, and when i said that i didnt want a solution, just for someone to listen to me, she told me it was useless to care about something you cant change and kicked me out.

i know she's always been analytical and only cares about finding solutions to problems, but i literally told her to her face that i just wanted to someone to pretend to care about what i was saying and she couldnt even be bothered to pretend. times like this i wish i wasnt her daughter and was her coworker instead, because she would at least pretend that she gave a fuck about what i was saying, if only to maintain her social reputation. i know she loves me, at least i really fucking hope she does, but i feel like i can never confide in her for anything emotionally without getting treated like im crazy and wasting my time.

telling people about how i feel helps me feel better and she knows this, but she would rather dismiss me and tell me im overreacting than just indulge me for like 10 minutes to make me feel better. i know this is such a non issue and that im not entitled to her time and shes not obligated to listen to whatever the fuck im saying but when she does this it really feels like she only wants to care about me and love me when its convenient for her, and only wants to indulge in the good parts of having a child and throw away everything else.

it just leaves me feeling unloved, which i feel very pathetic about but it doesnt make it hurt any less every time. at least my dad would listen to me before telling me im overreacting. i dont even know im just really frustrated and feel unwanted when they just cant be bothered to care about how im feeling. i know thats just lame of me, but i just want to feel acknowledged and heard sometimes, and it really sucks that my mom will never be someone i can confide in i guess,

that's really it, i still love her, and know she loves me in her own way, but i'll just have to live with the fact that i can never be anything other than happy around her, if not she doesnt care enough to stick around in the same room as me

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anonymous Home December 19, 2025 at 8:29 am 0 0