My Grown Brother is Lazy and Always Plays Victim

For context at home it's me (25F), my dad (63), mom (62), and beother (28). When we were younger my brother and I got along pretty well. We talked a lot and shared some of the same interests. However, now that we're older I see how self centered he is. My parents dont speak english fluently so I've always been the mediator between my brother and them (since my brother only speaks english). They've always wanted him to try harder in school and in work. I used to think they were to harsh on him but honestly it's been too long. My brother has never held a full time job. He spent most of his adult life in school. He spent 4 years at community college, 2 years at university, and another 3 years getting his credential. As of now he's adamant about getting a teaching position. All he's been doing is subbing even though it's an inconsistent job. He refuses to do any other job even when family are willing to help him get decent paying jobs at their work. Its been over a year and he's still doing this job. About 6 months ago he and I got into a fight and I havent talked to him since as he never apologized. It was then when I realized that he was self-centered and only cared for himself. He has constantly lied to us about being at school/work. Ive caught him many times at home playing video games instead of being at school like he said. He does not help much around the house. The only things he does are washing the dishes and lawn work. Besides that he spends all his time in his room playing video games. He does not cook or buy groceries. In regards to bills he pays the phone and internet bill and he is supposed to pay $300 in rent which he does 50% of the time.

In that time of me not speaking to him I finished my own credential and landed a teaching position. Prior to this he was subbing at my school and was talking negatively about me TO THE STUDENTS. These students were in my classs and told me he was calling me evil. He also subbed once in my classroom when i was student teaching and basically called me a crappy teacher. He was gossiping about me to MY students. Who again told me right away. This further made me realize how immature he is. After all of this badmouthing I was the one who landed a job, not him. When he heard i got the job he slammed his door and started sneering at me. It makes me angry becayse my parents are old. My dad is retiring soon and he will not be getting much in benefits. The reason my brother can live like he does is because of my parents paying for the bills and mortage. Even when we tell him about our financial situation he just doesnt care. It's summer now and all he does is stay in his room and play games. If i do not cook he will just eat cereal. He never goes out all he does is game game game. Ive never seen him go out for an interview or to socialize. My brother is a grown man with a degree and at this point, i can not worry about him anymore. He blames everyone but himself saying we should leave him alone. I get that my parents dont want to leave him cause he's their son but in my opinion it's too much. He's 28 not 18....

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Anonymouse Home July 03, 2025 at 9:57 pm 0 0