My friend keeps pissing me off

One of my friends is so fucking over dramatic it pisses me off. He's on a hair trigger all the time and the things he gets pissed about are so varied and common it's insane. High school, relationships, certain very famous bands. I understand, he's had bad things happen to him, but having one person who loved Nirvana bully you shouldn't mean you almost start yelling if someone mentions Nirvana. He has so many tiny everyday things ranging from literal characters in his favorite show to if someone mentions being in theater in high school. He's a wonderful person, and he's funny and kind and way smarter than he realizes but he absolutely refuses to try and help himself or get help and just shuts down and storms off and sighs loudly. Sometimes he seems to try and use bad things thay have happened to him as a one-up or a way to shut people up. It almost seems like he feels like no one else is allowed to have trauma similar to his but also gets upset if you have a good assosiation with something he has trauma related to. Not like, specific people, but if he has had a negative experience with a stage manager, and you mention that you had a good experience with your stage manager, he'll clam up and get angry and if you try and ask or comfort him he'll get upset with you. Sorry. I love this guy, but I NEEDED to get this off my chest.

This might be an awful thing to say, but sometimes I wonder what role he played in what's happened. Yes, a lot of it was just abusive people, but he takes any slight against him as the greatest threat ever. To the point where all of our mutual friends know that if you have the SLIGHTEST criticism of him, you need to layer it in compliments so he doesn’t get too angry. But he vaugely mentions that he was an asshole, then just moves on. How many times were people just giving back what he gave first?

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anonymous Friends April 08, 2026 at 7:03 pm 0 0