My Bf s Ex

So long story short the man I’m dating now used to be one of my associates. Well long before we even started talking he was dating a girl I’m going to call “B”. “B” told him they needed to take a break and then she started dating her coworker. The night she went on a date with him she told my bf that he had to watch their son (3 months at the time) so she could mess around with her coworker.

Well he was upset moved away from his family to be with this girl, so he turned to me to rant to. I listen and gave him tips. Their relationship worsen. He found out while he was at work she was inviting this guy over. She blocked my bf from seeing her fb and her coworkers fb picture was him holding my bfs son.

By this point my bf has had enough and wants to move back to Indiana, but doesn’t want to be away from their son. I told him that the other supervisor position was open and he got it. I started training him and we became good friends. We started Pokémon going in with a group of friend after work. By this time B is getting jealous and knows he’s talking to me. She doesn’t know he got promoted and kicks him out the house threatening to get me fired if he doesn’t give her full custody of their son.

He gets his own place and she tells everyone he moved into my place. She also tells all her friends that’s he’s been cheating on her with me bc she’s too stupid to put two and two together. She won’t let him see his son. After about month of fighting she agrees to let him see his son but he has to pay her $50 a week (she still made more than him at the time and under Kentucky law they would get 50/50 custody which means she would end up paying him) and that he would change their sons last name to her last name. He agreed. She wanted to do it that Friday and he told her that wouldn’t work and to pick another date. She becomes furious and demands to know why. Tells her multiple times that it’s none of her business and that she needs to pick another date. She refuses unless he tells her why. She then gets mad and tells him he cant see their son unless there is a name change and she gets money.

Well he refuses to talk to her unless it’s about their son. She gets mad about this and starts making more rules like I’m not allowed to be in their sons life and that he can only have him certain days and that he can’t have a say I’m anything when it comes to their son. He ignores her texts bc all she does is insult him and attack him for moving on. She is using their son as a tool for revenge and in the end of two more months of fighting she goes to his aunt claiming he won’t see his son. (After this Bitch denies him visitation). His aunt talks to him he shows her the texts she aunt goes off on her on fb after she is shit posting him. She then messages me and blames me for everything and says that I need to talk to him bc apparently she can’t handle being a single mom like she wanted.

I tell her I will do what I can and I talk to him. We agree that we just need to save money and take her to court. She goes to our work and confronts him. It’s been almost three months he hasn’t been able to see his son bc every time they agree on something she goes back on her word and refuses to let him see him. She starts screaming at him bc he’s ignoring her bc he stated that he’s working and this isn’t the time or place. She then starts chucking boxes at him. She is told to leave and we don’t hear from her again.

She then messages both of us stating that my bf isn’t even the father. (This is something we all expected since their son look nothing like him and they were broken up for over a month before she came to him telling him she was a month pregnant) She then moves six hours away. By this point everyone is pretty sure he isn’t the father and that it’s now been almost four months since he’s seen his son. He decides not to take her to court and drops all proceedings. He thinks even if it’s his biological child that the boy doesn’t need the back and forth and the hatred. He is well taken care of and in the end that’s all that matters.

I get pregnant and we move in together. He is trying his best to pay off his debts. (He went into debt moving on here to be with her. He literally gave up everything) Her coworker dumps her (I assume long distance wasn’t working for them) and she instantly starts stalking me. I guess she feels like she made the wrong choice and instantly starts shitting on us on fb and trying to get info off my page which is private. Her sister in law tries adding me. Her brother accidentally liked some of my background pics which I think was internal since it was my ultrasound. She then gets one of mutual friends on fb to screenshot my shit and send it to her.

I honestly don’t care in the end. If she wants to see how happy I am then stalk all you want. She continually insults me on her fb and claims that my bf is an abusive asshole and that she’s so much better for living him and how strong of a women she is etc. My bf is the most caring and supportive guy I know. His exwife and I get along great. His first son he sees every weekend and our son we have together loves him dearly. He puts his kids before anything else. If he truly believe that Bs son was his son he wouldn’t have stopped fighting. I think she broke him in the end. She was horrible to him and all he did was move on. He got another GF. That was his crime.

We honestly regret never getting a dna test. We still have doubts and don’t know what to do. She lives over six hours away and her son is now 20 months and mine is almost 3. I would gladly take him in like I did the 6-year-old. She will never let that happen. In her head she’s the victim. My bf aunt is on her fb and tells him updates on occasion. We now he’s growing up good and I would never say she’s a bad mom. She works too much and he sends more time with the baby sitter than her, but that’s the only fault I can tell.

I just wish we could go back and do a dna year bc idk if she’s just mad he had another child or if her child really is her child, but she didn’t start these rants until after She was single. Apart of me just want to message her to ask and see if we can work something out. My bf still feels guilt for his choice. He feels like he shouldn’t have believed her and that he feels like he took the easy way out. He says it’s too late and that it’s been a year and a half since he’s seen him and that he probably wants nothing to do with him anyway.

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anonymous Relationships August 08, 2019 at 9:44 pm 0 1