I hate that this girl is somewhat clingy to my bf

Some context: my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, he goes to public school, and I'm homeschooled.

A little before my boyfriend (I'll call him Adam) and I got together, there was this other girl (I'll call her Alex). Adam and Alex met in person as classmates and only lightly flirted with each other "jokingly" while I had only known Adam online for a long time but we were really close to know and can confirm it wasn't a creepy old guy behind the screen. A few weeks after, Adam and I confess to each other that there was something more than platonic between us, and started dating. He (obviously) stopped flirting with Alex, and has never done it again. Alex hasn't flirted with him either, but from the videos Adam and his other friends send, she's always with him and sometimes touching him. Looking back at the videos, she is always touching him while he pulls away.

Now, I have a few guy friends and an introvert, but I'd NEVER let them touch me even if it was a playful shove. I'd be next to them because, duh, they're my friends, but not 24/7. In every photo that isn't taken by Adam or Alex, they're always next to each other or some how close together. I know my boyfriend, he seriously wouldn't cheat on me. I know that sounds cliché, but I know he loves me dearly. It's Alex I don't trust.

She and I have talked on our own sometimes, and she is a nice girl. She and I are very alike in our interests and she reminds me of how I acted when I was younger. At first I thought she was annoying, but after talking to her and a few other friends, she's not that bad. It made me feel a bit guilty for thinking poorly at her, if I'm going to be honest. Adam has also shown me the texts messages of when they'd jokingly flirt (and I'm assuming they've never done it face to face), and later on she was the one to say "all the flirty messages were a joke".

Maybe it's just jealousy on my part, but I seriously don't trust her alone with Adam. I want to tell Adam to stop talking to her or to put some space between them, but the last thing I'd ever want to be is controlling or toxic in any way. I think I'll mention it at some point, but more so of "hey, can you put some distance between you and Alex? I didn't like how she casually touched you" and pray I don't sound controlling or demanding...

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anonymous Relationships May 18, 2026 at 12:41 pm 0 0