Got cheated on while pregnant with...

I am 5mo post partum. I just now found out he cheated on me while i was pregnant with at least 9 other women. 7 of which were co workers of his who knew we were married and together because we WORKED together. He gave me HSV2 after i was PP which was my first indicator to check his phone. I had trusted him for 17 years. I never thought he would do something like this. We have a 3yo together. He cheated on me with our trans who has HSV2 co worker who was also dating his sister. There's so many more I probably dont even know about because I stopped at 2023. So even before I was pregnant this time he had cheated on me. He had the nerve to get angry at me and shove me and spit in my face when he was the one who got caught. I came to him calmly about it and he got mad at ME? I gave this man 17 years of my life. I thought we had pretty much a picture perfect life. Turns out he resented me for getting pregnant when I "lied" to him about being infertile. I never lied. He was with me at those appointments when I was told Im infertile. I am filing for divorce tomorrow. He moves out next week. It cant come soon enough. I have to stay strong for the kids. Ive spent over half of my life with this man... I dont ever want to date again... ever. If he can do all that to me, anyone can. I will never trust again. Who is to say he won't hit me next time. I feel so fucking stupid for thinking we had a happy family. He claims he did it because he resented me for getting pregnant and he resented me over dumb miniscule arguments in the past over being jealous just to give me a reason to be jealous. Honestly if i didnt have kids i would just nose down and call it a day.. forever but i will never do that to my babies. I must protect them at all costs. Its not their fault their father is a whore. I want this as civil as possible. I screen shot everything and sent it to myself so i can show whatever divorce lawyer i get. To top off the pain. I WAS PAYING ALL OUR FUCKING BILLS SINCE 2 WEEKS AFTER I HAD THE BABY. I GOT ZERO MATERNITY LEAVE BUT HE GOT APPROVED PATERNITY LEAVE. Claimed he was paying his bills but when in actuality was spending it on OF girls, sending it to the girls he was cheating on me with etc. Then after his paternity leave he got fired from our job. So for 4.5 months ive been paying every single fucking bill on my own. I could throw up right now. I thought if I sat down and talked to him calmly about it we could handle it like adults. Instead he tried to gas light me, verbally abuse me and almost hit me and actually spit on my face. Which just makes this all that much more painful and heartbreaking. He was the love of my life since we were young teens. Ive never even found myself attracted to another man sexually but him. I dont think ill ever move on...but i will never forgive him. I value myself and my children more than to accept that behavior especially since hes been doing it for YEARS.

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Ivy Dating June 27, 2025 at 4:41 am 0 0