Being Aro

Just had someone who I thought was just a friend try and start a relationship with me this weekend, I never accepted his advances just awkwardly changed the subject each time. I told him yesterday that I was aromantic and thus do not want to be in a relationship with him and he responded that he needed space. Fair and understandable. The frustrating part is that he said that it "caught him off guard". Like how? We weren't even dating so it's not like it was some big secret I kept from you. It's really not my fault that you assumed that I was allo and also straight and also interested in you in that way. Maybe if you had at any point asked me how I felt or where I fell on the wanting to date spectrum? Sorry I didn't introduce myself with my orientation? Sorry I thought we were hanging out as friends? And you say you want to continue being friends, but how am I supposed to accept that when you clearly have a different meaning of friendship than me? I thought all this time we were friends, but apparently not since I caught you so "off guard".

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anonymous Dating February 13, 2023 at 4:40 pm 0 0