Smoke Signals = Flirting?

Why?

FWIW my last ex approached me at work. She asked me out. She was way out of my league, but also had serious issues.

Women not as attractive as her though rely on smoke signals, and like the most bland ones possible. They might smile at you or offer you something that they'd reasonably offer anyone. Like you gotta take that leap of faith Kieerkegard said was required for growth in life just to find out if she actually likes you or not.

Shit isn't hiding.
Shit isn't equality.
Shit isn't even being an adult.

Then they bitch men don't ask them out or men aren't asking women out. Why would I? I've noticed some HR departments are now even specifying that it's okay to ask out a coworker. It's only not okay if you keep doing it after they said "no."

Where's the attempt to even meet someone in the middle? To even try to treat them as a human? To even try to use words? It's like coming to a first date dressed in a skeleton t-shirt. The fuck am I supposed to think? She's in love with me? Because what I'm really thinking is maybe she's a Tim Robinson/I Think You Should Leave superfan and took his song about the skeletons using their bones as money a little too literally. Am I about to witness someone push their hair back and slop their steak too?

Thankfully she didn't. Never know with feminists. I once had one loudly talk to a friend on the phone as i went to the bathroom over a chicken shitting on her friend's face in her friend's sleep. Very detailed, very loudly, and at a restaurant of all places. She couldn't figure out why I didn't want a second date, and redditors thought it was hilarious. Obvious double standard is obvious.

But... Like. Politics aside. Everything else aside, what's the fucking point? What are you getting out of it? You smile at a guy you like and he's too afraid to approach you for 1 of 9000+ reasons and now he's not gonna ask you out. Not like you're gonna ask him out, so now you have to wait for the next guy who'll probably ignore you.

and don't twist my words either. I am a minority with clinically diagnosed PTSD. I've come to terms with the fact I'll be forever alone because I'm too anxious to talk to anyone unless it's necessary, but especially women. You see, this sort of environment makes catastrophic thinking easy. It's easy to find the 9001+ ways things can go south in a hurry when literally every possible bad outcome is regularly outlined online or in media or literally everywhere. Sure it's often downplayed as "all she can do is say no", but then you see what she can really do aside from just say "no." If you've seen what I've seen men go through, with two basically committing suicide over divorce, the image becomes way more bleak.

I've legitimately had female coworkers get mad at me for not trying to make babies or start relationships. Just saying that it's not like I'm some ridiculously overweight mouth breather even if I'm not a male model. I'm apparently a fairly decent looking dude with really pretty eyes and a really cute tattoo (not obviously at all) related to suicide on my arm. My tattooist only did it because it had serious meaning for me. Most people won't get it though unless I explain it.

Unless you're fucked up like me though and unable to function normally in our society the games just don't make sense. They aren't cute. It's complete bullshit.

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anonymous Dating February 21, 2026 at 1:30 am 0 1