No Winning Against Hypocritical Adults

I don't know if this experience is trivial compared to other rants here, but I'm starting to not care 'cuz I'm so sick of repeatedly experiencing this: Ever since I was a child, I've been experiencing many instances where adults, or at the very least people who are "more experienced" than me, are trying to teach me when they themselves are hypocrites.

To give you a general overview, it's like when they say "You can come to me if you need help or advise" but when you do they complain and roll their eyes at you while also saying something about "You should already know this by now" or "When I was your age, this was already common sense" or "You're already an adult, figure it out on your own". But then if I don't go to them and try to solve things on my own, they throw a tantrum and accuse me of "wanting to cut them off from my life" or on some extreme cases... Hiding a "secret life" from them. Like bruh... What am I supposed to do then?

Eventually, I came to the conclusion that I'll just do my own thing. If they'll complain no matter what I do, I may as well do it my way and navigate life the way I want to. However, recently I think they've realized that. And ever since they've learned that I became unfazed by their tantrums, they've now started attacking my hobbies and friends, using it as an excuse for why I'm "rebelling" against them.

That was the last thing that made me snap...

Mind you, I don't think I was rebelling since I still try to make effort to understand and see things through their perspective. Be understanding, you know? And I will admit, sometimes I find some of the things they're saying are right or it comes from the right space.
I also don't think I'm rebelling that much because I don't go all haywire and destroy my lifestyle. Like I don't go out to clubbing, I don't drink or do drugs, I've never ran away from home. I've always kept my grades up, I try to maintain healthy friendships and possible future career connections, I do my best to balance work, life, and personal time, and I've even went to counselling sessions whenever I'm overwhelmed.

However, them attacking the things and especially the people I love has finally awakened something in me I never thought I was capable of being. They finally experienced me being brutally confronting and physically threatening. It came to the point we had to call our friends over to act as unbiased witnesses and make sure nothing happened when we eventually continued the conversation.

Honestly, I am ashamed with how I treated them during that confrontation. But I don't regret defending my friends and setting strict, clear boundaries. And we'll still see if it actually works.

Was there a better way to fix this situation?

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anonymous Home March 30, 2026 at 10:01 am 0 0