i dont feel valid

I'm a teen trans guy, but I don't feel valid enough to call myself a guy. I didn't hate being a girl, I didn't really care about it and I don't care about most things. I don't care when people accidentally deadname me or misgender me, but I prefer being called by my masc name and going by he/him. I don't want to go on tetosterone cuz im scared of the side effects, so i don't even feel valid enough since all other trans guys always talk about wanting to go on tetosterone.

i don't really care about passing. I just want to look in the mirror and think "yeah i look like a boy today" and move on, but i still don't know if that counts as me being a trans guy. I don't feel like i fit in with other trans dudes, and I feel weird about it. I don't feel valid, but i've been in denial about me being a guy for about 3 years now, but now that i've actually come out to people, i'm doubting myself. I don't feel trans enough to be trans.

i don't know if any of this makes sense, and im sure there's tons of transphobic assholes on this website. so. i don't know.

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ryan Other June 25, 2026 at 11:44 pm 1 0