Boy-moms

I’ve been dating my bf for 2 years. He’s met my family and they like him, but my bf has been avoiding introducing me to his parents because he says his main problem is actually just his mom and that his mom is super controlling and insufferable.

The day finally came and I met his parents. His step dad was actually really chill. I was told he was really strict, but with me he was really chill and nice. Then there was his mom. OH MY FUCKING the nightmare!!!!! She was nice the first 3 times I met her.

After that her true colors started to show. She would scream at the top of her lungs to my bf that she didn’t want me around while I am right there next to them and then she would literally turn to me, smile, and be like “so nice to see you” WHAT THE FUCK?! And it doesn’t stop there. She yells and screams at my bf’s siblings about how much she doesn’t like me and crashes out every time I’m even brought up and now it’s gotten to a point that his siblings don’t really want me around anymore because they blame me for causing trouble to their household.

I didn’t even do shit to this lady and after the first time she acted weird I didn’t want to come over, but my bf insisted it wouldn’t happen again, but would be wrong and then he would have to hide me in his bedroom so she doesn’t blow up again.

I tried to figure out what is it that I did to make her suddenly act this way because I’m willing to apologize and take full responsibility if I did anything disrespectful. After I did a lot of thinking and obviously talked about her behavior with my bf, I’m so sure that she is literally a crazy boy-mom.

I’ve seen people talking about boy moms before, but basically it’s just moms who are extremely emotionally attached to their sons and sometimes it even comes off as if there sons are meant to be replacements for their husbands.

From everything I know and everything my bf shows me (like their text messages) she tries to come off as a cool hipster mom, but the second she realizes some girl has potential to “steal her son away” she goes crazy.

She also has this strategy where she crashes out to her own family and will say that she only hurts them because of me. I realized that this is like a manipulative tactic to get everyone to view me as the root problem and the only way to fix things are to get rid of me.

Oh and side note, my bf has two brothers and their youngest sibling is a girl. Their sister loves me and always comes running to hug me when I come over. She’s so adorable and I genuinely love her. I like playing with her and I don’t mind babysitting her with my bf from time to time. Sometimes his sister will give me an innocent little compliment, but if his mom is there, the mom will cut in and try to undermine the innocent compliment somehow.

I feel like I’m way over my head in this. I love my bf, I genuinely really liked his family (step dad is cool, love his sister, and I originally had no problems with his younger brothers but now they hate me because their mom keeps crashing out and they blame me for it), I don’t want to fight with anyone, but I feel like this is getting toxic way too fast.

If there was a way for me to talk things out, believe me I would, but it literally feels like she doesn’t want to. She’s pissed her son is serious about me and there have been so many times I’ve went home bawling my eyes out because of her. There was even a time that I kept refusing to come back because I was TERRIFIED of being yelled at by her and my bf literally yanked me out of the car and carried me up the steps. His mom apparently saw me at the window and laughed about it.
But that wasn’t funny to me at all! I was legitimately afraid of her after the first time she screamed at me and I spent the rest of that day paranoid and anticipating for her to crash out on me again.

I fucking hate women like this. Why do they have to act this way? I have zero intentions of hurting her son and we are taking things slow. I try so hard to be as respectful as possible, but it doesn’t matter to someone like her. All she cares about is keeping her son to herself so in her eyes, I’m just an enemy.

I really want to make things work with my bf, but… I can’t believe I’m gonna say this… I might have to leave him because his mom is fucking insane. I don’t know if I can keep dealing with her.

I’ve never had anyone’s parents scream at me or even scream about me like this before. I was so shocked the first time it happened that I froze up and when my bf took me home, all I remember was crying my eyes out in car. My bf has tried to defend me, but it’s no match for his mom because everyone in his family is like “that’s still mom, you can’t talk to her like that”.
It feels impossible. I know this isn’t healthy, but the only reason why I’ve stuck around after all that is because I love my bf. But I don’t know if this is something I can handle.

Sometimes I’m sad, sometimes I’m really angry. I wish his mom could just be normal.

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anonymous Dating January 12, 2026 at 5:03 pm 0 0