I'm proud of you! I had to do that to a few women and I'm no catch for women either, mainly because I enjoy time to myself after these nuke bombs towards my trust and willingness to date and be close. In this world now, you gotta be all or nothing because weasel's law, if you give an inch they'll take a mile or more! So NO space given! I even had to end a 20 year friendship with a now ex roommate I had to throw out because even though he was living with me rent free because he helped me out plus since I was visiting him near daily for years, I thought he was trustworthy and clean, and long story short, he was the COMPLETE opposite of that within like a month, maybe two. Started to get confrontational with me and taking up all the time in the bathroom and I noticed that he would do it especially when I had to leave for work and throw my schedule off. One time, he got drunk, drinking like 6 beers DAILY when he didn't have to work which cost like $30-$80 total for them per six pack and took all the things I told him about in confidence and threw it all in my face and berated me. He only became what he hated, an asskisser, when I put my foot down and he realized he had no other options and I threw his ass out. Blocked his number as SOON as he left and made sure he got an address change and any mail that came here, I tore up and threw away. I cried at first, then I felt better knowing I can make friends as long as I'm alive. Hopefully you know what I realized too, and that you don't have to put up with that for any man if they behave like that. Keep your ground elevated and protect yourself, and you'll get people that fit your qualifications and not scum like your ex from what I read and my judgment about him. Hope your life is getting better now!

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anonymous 16 hours ago

"He would always say the n-word, and claimed it was fine because "everyone says it in Hawaii","

First I've ever heard of this! And I never heard of this before because it's only going on in that loony toon's head. Dump the cretin and never look back. Maybe one day they will throw him inside an institution where he belings.

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anonymous 14 hours ago

^Ex..but still wants contact

"Dump him" still applies here

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anonymous 14 hours ago

And "dump him" means cut all contact with him cold, period. You don't need to explain yourself to that deranged clown.

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anonymous 14 hours ago