Am i the problem?

Every relationship I have ever been in, the man tells me im perfect. Im more than they could’ve ever ask for. They obsess over me in the beginning, endless compliments and think im hilarious. The issue is, I cant be happy all the time. I have some fucked up family, Im 18 and cant go out at ALL (and before you say just do it, if i did that then i wouldnt have a home to come back to). I HATE my body my face, everything about myself. As much as i try to keep my problems to myself, sometimes I cant hide it, sometimes i need someone to tell me that they think I’m beautiful, sometimes i need someone to be angry or sad at an injustice with me. I feel like maybe there’s something wrong with me, no man i have ever been with has ever not lost feelings for me, but every single one says it has nothing to do with me. I just dont understand. They’re never the ones who break up with me either, I’m always the one to notice that theyre putting less effort in or complimenting me less or not making an effort to have conversations etc. and then when i confront them about it, they either say theyre not or that they dont know WHY they are.

My most recent example is my boyfriend that i broke up with on the 14th of Feb (yes valentines yes two days ago). He did absolutely nothing at all?! We barely even spoke the whole day. I got him a jelly cat that i ordered to his house (since we couldn’t meet up that day) but he did absolutely nothing!! A couple days prior to that, I was telling him about how my dad was saying unpleasant things about my appearance, and how insecure i was feeling recently. He just went “you speak too much about this, you need to stop being so pessimistic.” And i said “what? How can me talking about how ugly i feel recently bother you more than the fact that this is how i feel?”. He followed with “sometimes i think you dont realise how often you talk about how insecure you feel”. He literally never compliments me anymore. We have been together for 10 months and in the last month hes just stopped everything. And then he tells me that ive been complaining too often? I just dont understand. This happens every time. And then he apologised and told me he was at fault and that he doesn’t know why hes acting this way. Like what??? Is everyone kidding me right now, what am i like a male repellant? I broke up with him and explained to him why, and he admitted that he had in fact lost feelings for me, but couldn’t explain why. I just want someone who will really love me for who I am, and i cant seem to find anyone who’s willing to put up with me beyond an all happy facade.

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anonymous Relationships February 16, 2026 at 12:38 pm 0 0