I don’t get jealousy

As someone who is polyamorous, I don’t like it when someone projects their jealousy on others. When I love someone, I like it when other people love them too. Negative feelings only come when I feel I’m being ignored or neglected or if it’s actively hurting me. I’ve never got the idea that I don’t want others around them or for them to talk to others.
I’m in love with one of my friends who I’ll call “S.” I’m bisexual and I think she’s straight. She has a boyfriend, and is monogamous. I’m okay with this, and I don’t want her in a relationship that she doesn’t want and isn’t happy in, even if that’s with me. Seeing her with her boyfriend doesn’t make me upset, unless he’s treating her badly. I’m happy to be just friends with her, as long as she’s happy.
My friend, who I’ll call “H” doesn’t have a lot of friends and doesn’t get a lot of attention. She can be very rude sometimes, but she’s still a good friend. H and S clearly don’t like each other, but they’re my closest friends. H doesn’t like when me and S hangout together, doesn’t like her giving me attention and doesn’t like me giving her attention. H is homophobic, and doesn’t know I’m bi. She’s upset at me that I “favor” S over her, but the things is that I love S. I’m only friends with H.
If she truly feels left out, she can communicate that kindly without being rude to S and without making it seem like it’s my fault.
I’m not saying jealousy in general is bad, it’s just that I don’t think you should make it other people’s problem

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anonymous Crushes May 23, 2026 at 9:52 pm 0 0